To Live In Seattle

Then it came to be known that King Oton had taken ill and as had been decreed he was to select an heir to the kingdom as he had no son. King Oton ordered that he should give forth his kingdom to any man that came to show purity in character, that no man should rank above him in valor, strength or generosity and that he should not be shown lacking in any area.

The first to ask was Ginath. Ginath was well known for his cattle that gaze in the fields of the south. Ginath worked in the field from the time of the sunrise until the time of sun set with pause only for the prayer to the LORD. On the second day Ginath approached King Oton.

And King Oton said to Ginath, I shall not give to you this land as you have disappointed me. While you are here asking for the kingdom who is keeping watch of your cattle?

Ginath said to King Oton, As king I shall not have need of the cattle.

King Oton was unpleased with Ginath, Why should a king not have planned for all needs.

And King Oton had Ginath return to his cattle.

Ramoth was the second man to ask for the kingdom. Ramoth was a farmer and had a brother called Ribai. Ramoth and Ribai had lost the LORD's favor when they divided the land of their father and Rabai took over the land on the river. The river flooded and Ribai lost one forth his crop while the land of Ramoth was spared. Ramoth offered to let his brother purchase his excess harvest. When Ramoth came to King Oton he was denied the heir. King Oton was angry with Ramoth for his actions, You did not help your brother.

And Ramoth said to King Oton, Did I not offer my brother first choice of my harvest?

And King Oton said to Ramoth, You are his brother and yet you let him suffer. You are his brother and yet you make him beg. As King would you let your people suffer and make your people beg?

Then Ramoth said to King Oton, What shall you have me do for my brother?

And King Oton said to Ramoth, For your brother you are to give all of your harvest you do not need. For your brother you do not cease to help after one deed; after one obligation met. For your brother, as your people, you must do more than you knew you could.

And with that King Oton sent Ramoth back to his land.

Then Zaleb went to King Oton and asked after the inheritance of the kingdom as he had been a good man and faithful to his wife. But when Zaleb spoke to King Oton he was denied the kingdom. King Oton said to  Zaleb, I know you have been a good man and faithful to your wife but where is your neighbor?

And Zaleb said to King Oton, Have I not put my wife above all else? I have helped her in all manner and been loyal. I have done nothing but bring honor to my house and family. Why do you ask now of my neighbor?

And King Oton said to Zaleb, It is true that you have brought honor to your house but as you bring such joy to your home you ignore your neighbor who called for your help.

Then Zaleb said to King Oton, I did not hear my neighbor call as I was heeding the cry of my wife as she needed me more.

Therefor King Oton said to Zaleb, You bring happiness to your home by closing the door on your neighbor. You have not put in order your home and neighbor and would bring turmoil to the kingdom letting many die hearing only the voices in your own home.

And King Oton sent Zaleb away. Then the LORD came to King Oton in a dream saying, I have seen you speak to the people of your kingdom and yet you have not chosen an heir.

And King Oton said to the LORD in his dream, LORD I have not wanted to fail You and place the wrong man as king. I have found fault in all these men for not doing more as each has failed to try as hard as You would require LORD. And I do not want to make the same mistake so I shall seek for one worthy to serve you LORD.

Then the LORD said to King Oton, I have seen these men and I have seen you King Oton. The failing you find in your people is the failing of you. It is your role as king to lead your people. As you ask of them to do more you have not inspired in them the desire. You have condemned your people by not preparing them. As you have prepared no one to take your place as king I will destroy the kingdom.

Then the LORD let out a fire that fell from the sky to destroy all of the kingdom.

Hunter S. On Suicide

She died out there; I left her with the coyotes. I held the money for a while, the leather bag in my clawed hands. Caked with sweat and dust, after so many days of cacti and sunsets a hundred thousand seems to mean less. The javelina wont stop charging ‘cause I waive some marked bills.

When we left she was wearing a navy suit with a jackets with big shoulders; I told her that it made her look right, professional. She bought it from goodwill, along with my jacket and the shoes I’m wearing. All told they cost three dollars by the pound. She wore it to the interview at the bank when they offered her the job. Maybe if they’d looked closer they’d have known she wasn’t a good fit; they’d have told her ‘we’ll keep your resume; let you know if something turns up.’ Then I’d never have had this idea and her bones wouldn’t be licked by the blue blooded animal I hear screaming after sun down. But that’s not how it went down and that’s not going to help me get water now.

The desert is God forsaken land, he threw the snake to here, on his stomach, in hell-that’s where I chose to run. The people here before, we saw pictures in books back in grade school, they built homes in the side of the mountains, hiding from the world. That’s what brought me here-needing to run, hide. The thing about the desert is there doesn’t need to be a place to hide-no one comes looking. God won’t look for you out here ‘cause anyone who comes this way aint looking for God. Sarah’s mom bought a house in Tucson: sent us picture of flowers and green grass: we all create mirages, I wish mine had a damn pool.

I kept the gun. Seemed more likely I’d need protection than money but I think the sound would wake hell and I can’t see Sarah yet.

I see gila monsters and trees now that stab me with green thorns and give no shade. They all lie to me; they hide the water and lie. They started talking to me in the morning when the sun conspired. I started hearing the tails going, mechanical sounds like they were getting wound up, sent lose on a mission, the flowers closed up and the birds tried to get me to follow them as they disappeared before my eyes inside green men with outstretched arms. The night is no better: bound by mud that throws off heat from satan himself. Still no water.

I hear the voices more. I don’t worry about food. I want to know who talks to me. The dead guard? My pop? I shut my eyes and go back to sleep-safety off, dreaming of water and death.

When I wake, old man Christmas is in front of me. He’s fat and his beard twirls around a mouth with scabbed lips and missing teeth. He’s chewing something, looking down at me. I think of shooting him but what’s the use of wasting a bullets on ghosts?

“You come for me?” I ask not caring the answer. The sand is stuck in my mouth, between my teeth, catching my tongue.

“Nope,” His gray face flat.

“What ya want ol’ man?” I start to get up but there doesn’t seem a use now. “Why you out in the desert? You die here with me, today?”

“I'm not ganna die, son.”

“You ain’t got no water, neither. You’re not lasting any bit longer than me.” Everything hurts. My body heavy and the sand burns running over my skin.

“I don’t need any.”

I don’t bother to ask, my body wont move.

“There’s water all around. What you think them animals live on? No, I don’t need any water ‘cause I know it’s here, I know it’s an option. That’s that gives me freedom to not hunt for it.”

I feel my pupils grow wide, everything is bright. Sarah and the man stare at me-waiting to stake a claim. 

The Mating Rituals Of Abandon Geese

In upstate New York, studies were done looking at the mating rituals of a certain group of geese. The reason for the study lie in the concern of environmental factors, you see there had been some chemical agent in the water that was effecting far more of the male geese than the female and since geese tend to mate for years at a time it was a topic of discussion for what the females would do. They adapted. Many of the geese began pairing off with female geese in the flock. When the population levels approached the normal, expected ratios, the geese returned to their typical male-female coupling.

I think about that often: to how many curve balls do we adapt in our every day lives? After Evan left me I looked at adopting a dog. Not just one. I fell in love with a beautiful puppy but he was adopted before I was able to contact the agency. I tried again. I tried two more times and each time something happened to take the dog away from me. Coming off everything with Evan, coming off the loss of my hopes, losing something else to love was not easy to take. I don't think I've ever talked that much about the days following, the days when Evan and I tried, the days when I lost it. This wont be an exception. It was difficult for me to have something else I wanted to love taken away and I remember the physicality of defeat.

I recently became rather ill. I was fortunate enough to be able to take some time off work and have a chance to recover at home. I had been putting off going to the doctor for months, much to the chagrin of a few people in my life that had offered to literally hold my hand during an entire exam if it would make me go to see a health care provider. When I went to see the doctor, I had ample opportunity to ask for anything I wanted, to bring up any other concerns that I had and yet I didn't, I did my best to utter as few words as possible. I wanted pills. I wanted some magic pill to hep me be happy. I have talked so negatively about anti-depressants but I thought that I had already done the work, I wanted to be happy and this was a way to help push me a small bit over the edge, I wasn't ask the pill to perform a miracle. I didn't though. I left with a handful of prescriptions, notes, and follow up requests but in the end I only got one of the four prescriptions, threw away all the notes and never called for a follow up.

I went to an event this weekend, one that I typically look forward to for quite some time when it occurred to me that I had no real desire to attend. I had thought, at that point, for a few weeks that I wasn't looking for what I thought I was anymore. I don't want; I don't need a relationship. I thought that if I help up this ideal for a relationship, treated it with the respect and adoration it deserves that I would eventually find that. Some point a few weeks ago led me to the realization that a relationship wasn't something I was searching for anylonger. I had come to accept and nye, even enjoy being single. To point, the idea of entering a relationship sounds taxing, annoying, and claustrophobic. So what do I want?

I went to the event on Saturday a bit perplexed, there is nothing there that I want. I was approached by a few people and the only thing that helped was that I didn't want any of them. No one appealed to me for other than the most basic of physical desires and even those were fleeting. I commented, again, about the my divvied up desires: Dave for rope, Nick for choking, Kurt for anything sexual, etc but I am not wanting any thing more from them, I want nothing more from most people. I miss Daniel. I miss few others. I have faith though.

I wanted to write a post about the nature of goodness about what it means to do the right thing in the face of such unyielding life. To me it still means everything. To do the right thing simply because it is the right thing is as close to pure as a sinner can get. The true, the good, will do the right thing because of the love they have for God and for others and the desire to express God's love through their own actions. I cannot be that person but I can come in a close second: I can do the right thing because it is the right thing and thus i live my life. I make every effort to do the right thing because it is the right thing. That does not for a moment stop me from judging and sadly it has not been enough to help me stop judging but it is enough to make sure that I act even while judging. This means then, that if someone I hated were to call me in the middle of the night from jail I would be the one to go get them. This means that all of my actions have to come from a place of definitions which, in turns, reinforces my black and white nature. I will never date a person who limits my interaction with another friend because it is the wrong thing to do. I will never have an affair because it is the wrong thing to do even if the wife seems to think it is ok. I will never cut across the street and force the on coming cars to stop as I jay walk. I will judge others for doing it though and I will be consistently and constantly saddened by other's decisions to do such things. I will be dissapointed. It will hurt me.

The thing with the geese is that their position still isn't favorable. They suffer to maintain their status. To have a partner they are forfeiting something. The geese that chose to have a relationship with another female, or in other cases the male geese that choose to have male-male relationships get put in an unfavorable position: they are forced to occupy the outside ranks. By choosing to have a relationship these geese are put in direct harm. The outside position int he flock is the position most exposed to the outside world, the most vulnerable to predators of all sorts.

I had a wonderful time at the event, by far and away the best time I have had in a long time. I enjoyed most all the people I meant, I felt more confident and was able to relax a great deal more. I had accomplished a small goal the day after that had been weighing heavily on my mind. I have, in general, been experiencing better relationships and had some good things reinforced. I have been eating better and exercising. I am healthy again. I am not in a dire financial place. I have no majorly pressing concerns other than my long term ones and yet I am miserable. I think that is the key.

At the party I met a girl that I had fun with. I had specifically not been looking for anything and yet had a lovely time with her. In the book I am currently reading, it says that in fewer than 3% of people do their sexual preferences fluctuate. Most people are able to tell their sexual attraction to the other sex very young. Mine is changing but for no true reason. I still like guys better but am certainly not opposed to girls. I had considered briefly that perhaps it is the measure of the times: not getting what i want from men i decided to go to the outside and try the available alternative. It does seem about accurate that men have all been eating up by some remote chemical agent that only effects them. Nothing seems to help though.

By and large I am happier now than I have been in a while. I feel more calm more at peace and at rest. I don't feel quite so much that I am struggling all the time. I don't feel as if I have as much to prove. I feel less tired. I feel less like I am fighting for the chance to hold onto a hand rail and yet...

I keep imaging a scene where there is a window separating me from the rest of the world. I look out the window and see a raging forest fire. I can see myself scarcely reflected in the window plane. I watch the fire with no emotion. I see the flames in mostly orange consuming the trees by my house. I see their leaves crumble and fall away to a sicken ash. I see the bark as it falls away from the tree. I see the sap inside run dry. I see the frailty of the trees. I see myself reflected back in a purple robe, wet hair and hot coffee mug. The steam rises faintly, obscuring the view of the fire. I know that by touching the window, I will burn my hand. I know that the fire is close enough that i will feel its effects forever more. I am higher, on the second floor and i can see that there is no longer any life down with the trees; the animals all ran away but the trees were caught. From my vantage point there is less smoke than i expected. I know that there are helicopters over head and that they could bring water but most are simple from the news stations doing as I am, watching it all burn away. It's as if they are the children, the voices I used to hear but they have given up on me too, they know i wont save them. It gets dark but i presume it is from the smoke. There is little for me to do any more. I move my hand close to the glass, sip my coffee and shut the curtains.

I hear people tell me that I am crazy. It bothers me far less than one might assume. I also hear, and more frequently, that I am pretty tame and keep my crazy pretty hidden. I require little energy they say. It's merely because I don't see a reason to explain it anymore. I don't see a reason to try. Why call the news van when they can watch the destruction from above, from after.

I saw a dog online today that caught my attention. I thought long and hard about if I could do this: love a dog, watch a dog, be a friend to someone else, be stable. It wasn't an easy thing to consider. I could hear eduardo's voice telling me that I should do this, that it would be good for me. Took my several hours but I did. I contacted the woman with the puppy and she told me she had already gone to a good home. It felt about right.

I wonder about the geese. Why not just hold out? Why admit to the decrease, to the futility of it all? I think about their choice and the cost. Being on the outside if it means not being alone. It is almost like the drugs right? It is make the decision to be happy. It is forcing it. Less than 3%. But then for the 97% maybe it is easy. 10% of the geese chose the female-female coupling. Maybe they were always the ones in danger.

I am happier now than I have been and yet we are so close. I think about the idea of continuing to eat right, exercise, do the things I should. I think about the enormity of trying, caring, going through the same motions for the rest of my life, the rest of my natural life. The inevitability of it is more than I can comprehend. Faced with the option of waking up every single day and taking a shower, looking at the window at the orange flames, even it means I get something, even if it means I get a pretty girl, even if it means that I am more relaxed, even if...I will still know, I will still know that I am on the outside, I am still not getting the puppy. It sounds so small and in truth I am happier than I have been but it's odd because the entire time that I've felt happier there is this smaller feeling inside me saying I don't care, saying the magnitude of all of it is too much. Who are these idiots that say life is too short? You walk away from the fire because it will all burn anyway. The geese in New York adapted to nothing but a momentary acceptance. I'm just asking why believe in the momentary at all with the forever is the painful endurance we have to tolerate.

Take a shower, get dressed, eat the right thing, answer the phone calls, go to work. All for the chance to ring the right door bell. What do you do when the hope of a door bell is no longer appealing. I am capable of getting pills, making it easier to be happy, but why would I? Why prolong what is already doomed to repeat ad infinitum? I am happier. It's not worth it.

Maybe the geese move to the outside not because they are forced but because that 10% is ready to admit defeat, admit it doesn't matter, admit that temporarily this relationship is fixing something but that they are fine to sacrifice themselves because it's not a sacrifice, it's a relief, it's a breath, it's a way to not return to happier.

Fly away home. Fly away little bird.

Faith tells me not to worry. They come back. It's migration. It's instinctual. Why do they come back to me? My fear grounds them. I contain it. I feed them. They believe. But I lack the wings to fly myself, and worse, I'm content to watch them burn. Watch the sky turn to black. Have the voices silenced. The geese die out from the chemicals, their populations never return. The trees succumb to the fire and leave behind no evidence the wind can fix. How long must I wait for the same fate? Acceptance is the new suicide as nothing is more depressing than knowledge. Why can't I fly home?

a barn of candles

coming off my dreams of evan, i dreamed of my wedding. i was sitting in a church wondering if i would think of evan on my wedding day (obviously that was answered) and wondering who on earth i could ever agree to marry. in the dream i remember thinking it odd that i couldnt remember the groom. it was dark in the barn. not the type of place i would have guessed i'd marry in but at the same time perfect. old, dank, dark, mystical. i remember wondering why no one was coming to congratulate me. never occurred to me that it was strange for the bride to be out sitting in the audience. i remember feeling nervous and odd and alone when someone came and sat next to me and started singing. and i knew instantly. will-evidently-my fiance, just made things click and i remembered.

the important part is that my father was there. thats not at all unusual. i see him all the time in my dreams. more so than is to be expected. in fact that's what got me going tonight. i am drunk in my room, on my bed and some blurry memory of the sheltered candles lighting his face made me think of him. i realized how often i actually do dream of him. i dream of him more now than when he was ever alive. in fact, i see him more now than when he was alive. it is still odd to me, years later, that he is dead. i have to remind myself often that he chose to die. then i feel isolated. then i feel confused. and i feel like i have to put up a brace front.

tonight i went to find him, the traces of him left alive on the internet. tragically, again, there is more there now than when he was alive. i have almost no photos. i have one blurry, faded video and a few memories but almost nothing tangible. the internet though, it has his phone number, it has his address (i never had his address) and it tells of his rank in the army, of the places he was stationed. as i read it all, i begin to wonder how much i never knew. i always presumed he had affairs, sometimes i thought he had other children, at the end i thought him to be gay. i dont really care to be honest. thinking about it makes me feel even more distance from anyone im related to. but at night, in the dark, i start to wonder why i dream of someone i never knew. i start to wonder about the coffin he lies in. about the men buried next to him in the desert sand. i wonder about the things he saw and the things he felt.

i wonder about when it all started. the first lies, the last lies. i wonder about if he loved anyone. i see him all alone in every single dream, like even in a second chance he can't quite figure out how to join anyone. and i see him watching, i see him drinking, i see him lost. and i see the small flicker of the candle burn out and i see him lost to the shadows, to remain until i fall asleep again and grant him, i'm sure, the only daylight he has seen in 40 yeas.

he would have to cry at a wedding. he would have to leave church early. he could never accept communion. im pretty sure he never wore a wedding ring. although i am positive he carried around a tattered photo of me from when i was seven until the day he died. in his entire life i dont think he ever managed to start life. so he disappeared.

The dreams are getting intense. (It's what always occurs when I'm on medicine.) the ones last night had me with Evan. Shocking? Right? Anyhow. He was single again and even in my dream I remember sighing and thinking how nothing could go back to how it used to be.

In waking life I have actually, finally , reached a point where I have no desire to be in a relationship. Nothing. Not sexual. Not love. Not a fling. Not flirty. I'm good. Which is crazy. Even more I turned a guy down. I have this golden rule that should encourage guys being brave and asking girls out by saying yes to dates. But, this guy asked me in Sunday and I just had no desire. It sounded awful. Just entirely not what I wanted. So that's good.

But then came the next dream. So it took a while but I finally fell back asleep. And dreamed about a spider. Three hours later I get back in bed and fall asleep a last time. Evans back. I'm in a car and the window is down. Evan is walking to me. He gets to the window, looks at me with his back pack on and says something. I don't know what. When I wake up i search for what it could have been And my mind adds "stop looking for me". What does that mean? How do I deal with that??

Tourniquet

There is a place between pain and fear where we live. We lie there in the dark imaging the depth of our shallow graves. We lie there in the depths of the sea wondering how long till our bodies disintegrate. There is secret we all cary about our demise: we know its imminent.

There is a spot on all of our hands that echos all the blood we've seen, all the stones we've cast. It stains our minds and preps our coffins yet we take that soil and we build a life around our secrets.

I have so many.

I was born singing a song. Young as i can remember i knew the melody and lyrics to a haunting song of death and loss. I cant imagine a time when i didnt hear it play in my head. I have watched people die. I have seen faces in a low sepia tone come through in the dark. Walking through the black hallway at my parent's house, my house, i would leave the light off in the hall way for fear that they would know my fear yet i would run to escape the hallow faces i would see in the ether. the children searching my mind for help that would die; i could see them. as long as i have been alive i could watch them and i could hear them calling me, begging me, as if i had some choice.

in virginia the single most haunting event of my life occured. i lie in bed looking at the window, the window that called to me every night and outside the window would be anything from the devil to the Lord and i would never know which it would be. i could hear footsteps, see shadows cross, but they all waited.

i made a deal with the Lord. i would kill myself for Him. i would be His martyr. i suppose we all did. we all read catcher in the rye, we all thought we were special. we all thought life to be a tool instead of the ledge to which we cling, the net. it is easier to die when you're young. tis easier to believe and that's all there is to death.

when eduardo left town and i was in stay of his place i lied to him; i took over someone. i took over my animals and set them up to see the entirety of his place. i wanted them to see the view and i valued them over him. anyday.

i pray, we all do whether we admit it or not, i pray to God for help. i used to. i became and angry and now just request and yet he doesn't answer. i thought that was par for the course till last night. i went out and became quite ill and i silently, instantly, asked God to fix me. He did. within moments i was fine until i got home. Thought nothing of it. till the same thing happened tonight. i was so ill i couldn't see straight and then i asked for help almost out of reflex, yet it came, instantly.

on the bus this morning there was a man two seats away from me that clearly seemed out to get a rise out of me. he was on his cell phone and yet making silly faces at me as though i were a child he could convince to smile. i ignored him as any sane woman would have done. he spoke on his cell phone in monotone spanish with his pressed white shirt and simple tie. his slicked back black hair and his aged face with wrinkles staring in front of him and yet, and yet when he knew i would look... then it all came together.

i have always known that certain things i could feel. more so with fred but it is true none the less. when i give up trying to control and let the world happen i usually know what will happen. drunk at a bar i knew my father died. half asleep in the car i could feel my puppy leave me. and alone in the snow, high in the mountains i felt the world shift away and the towers collapse. i've always known. the first and only time my mother took me out in the car with my permit we were going to pass by two cyclers and my mother and i both knew the girl would fall. and she did. i swerved and she was fine but nothing will take away what we knew would happen. i always know. i knew topher would get engaged. i knew. but it is easier to turn away. it is easier to turn on the light and not see the faces of the starving, of the diseased.

the man on the bus with his bronzed face and his cracked lips was waiting. at the last stop he turned to me and i tried to turn away but it was too late, i already knew. with the rest of the passengers gone, he turned to me, moved his phone, stared in my eyes and told me. and i was back. 14 years ago in my bed, in my room in arizona, staring at the end of the bed, covers above my head, a man i didn't know stared me down, looked me in the eyes and said he knew. how was i to know it was just prophecy? i couldnt speak. it was the same man. the same face. the same gesture. waiting.

there is a point in a crisis center called triage where you deal with the most serious issue first. so no matter if the person will go blind if you leave the glass in his eyes, you stop the leg from bleeding to save his blood. no matter if he is hysterical, you stop the bleeding.

so make it stop. make me stop these things. make the voices, my the screams, make the faces, and the darkness, and the horror stop.

God can hear me.

All of you can hear me. All of you had lied awake imagining the coffin, imagining the darkness and the dirt and the emptiness and the phobia and the death. And all of you have thought about the secrets you'll carry with you. i have waited and i have prayed. i have hurt and i have saved. but, in the end, the blood will be my own. and it will never wash from my hands. i have waited all this time. i have waited. in the blizzard, in the dark, the only stain that you can see is your guilt.

the rings are placed on your fingers, the promises are whispered in church and yet i know. you know. there is a smell in the emptiness. there is a vastness that can't be seen. so you stop by any means necessary. you apply a tourniquet and you hope. you hope the voices, the faces, the bleeding all stop so that you can hear, live and move on. you hope that death does matter, that you are old enough to understand that death does matter. suicide is easy. believing is hard. so you make it stop. there is a place between acceptance and hope that all of us fears. there is a place where we are useless but still want to exist, for ourselves.

i hear nicks voice ordering me not to cut. i see eduardo on the street stopping me, telling me how angry he will be. i see daniel kissing me because he thinks he will never see me again. i see jake forcing me away for fear i wont live another day. you treat the immediate. treat the bleeding. dont ever look back.

there are too many secrets.

i was born singing a song of loss. can you imagine what else we were born knowing?

it is easier to die in belief than to live in fear. knowing only ever hurts the cause.

Muscle Memory

It takes 18 months to let go of a repeated muscle memory. It's why people still reach for a limb they don't have. It's why patients under going cancer therapy still reach to twirl their hair.

I wear jewelry every single day. I feel strange venturing out to work without my watch and my ring and yet the instant I am home or away from work I pull them both off-they are my uniform more than anything else. When I wear them I know that I am going to work and when they come off-I know that world isn't mine any longer.

I am 28 years old and there are so many beautiful pieces of jewelry. I used to receive a wondrous new piece each year for both my birthday and Christmas. Typically, my father would give me a necklace or eventually earrings and as I grew older they would become more age appropriate. With my father's death, the jewelry stopped as well. It's funny, the first Christmas without him my mother handed me a card with cash in it, she said it would continue-the tradition of getting cash on Christmas, just like it had with my father. I didn't remember he had ever done that. I only remember that he would send someone out to get me a present of jewelry. I knew he didnt do it himself but I also knew that wherever it was he went kept records of what he had purchased.

I'm 28 and with all of the jewelry I've worn: bracelets, anklets (lets skip over that), earrings, necklaces, broaches, everything, i have never once worn a ring on my left hand. i like to think i will have the next 60 years to wear that ring. that makes me smile. i think about it often. it makes me happy.

i should have learned something odd about myself years ago. people come back. ive never really lost someone for ever. not yet. i spent six years looking fred. summers searching for jules. letters upon letters to aaron. heyden said goodbye. daniel. scott. brandon. mike. yet somehow. i should have faith. i should believe he will come back. some how he will find me.

i talked to jake the other day. he said i had waited so long to have sex i should at least make it mean something now.

how long should i be true to someone i havent met? i dont wear a collar or anything similar out of respect for a man i can only imagine. never a ring because that is a symbol that i am his and he hasnt taken me yet.

i should have more faith. the world is smaller than it at first appears. they come. and i wait. each holiday i wait for him to give me that honor. for him to not have to ask someone else. i keep myself for someone im waiting to return, to meet.